When you’re engaging in your next act of intimacy, be sure to avoid these five pleasure pitfalls. During sex, it’s never OK to:
Act Distracted.
When you’re in a long-term relationship, sex can become a little repetitive. And even for couples who focus on keeping the passion alive, there will be nights or mornings when your mind just isn’t on the task at hand. But thinking about your meeting schedule for the day, planning out your errands or trying to remember whether you packed your child’s backpack are definite no-no’s. Even if you think you’re good at hiding it, your lack of focus will be obvious to your partner and will lead him or her to believe that he or she is boring or unattractive to you. And while you may have a compassionate and understanding partner out of the bedroom, the perceived rejection in bed can lead to some serious relationship tension.
Beat the Bust
Sex is the most intimate bond a couple can achieve -- shelve your to-do list and focus on the person you fell in love with. Making eye contact is a great way to focus on your partner and get lost in the moment. Those other things you were thinking about can wait.
Let Sex Become Routine
The only sex routine you and your partner should have is making sure that it happens. According to a Newsweek survey, married couples report that they have sex an average of 68.5 times per year, which is slightly more than once a week. And up to 20 percent of married couples say they have sex less than 10 times per year, which experts define as a sexless marriage.