That said, many women often unknowingly make 12 common mistakes in the bedroom. Take a look to see if any of your magic moves are on the list.
1. Your teeth hurt. Ouch!
This is the number-one mistake that women unknowingly make in the bedroom. While your man loves it when you go down on him, he’s very sensitive “down there.” That’s why you’ve got to handle his best friend with kid gloves.
To avoid unnecessary pain, watch it with your teeth. There’s an easy way to do this. Make an “O” with your lips and cover your teeth with the inside of your mouth. This will take your teeth out of the equation. In addition, add a little suction. This is will please him in a way that will make him say “wow.”
And don’t be afraid to spice things up with your hands at the same time. That’s the best way to take your guy from zero to 10 at the speed of light.
2. You forgot lube during foreplay.
It’s no secret that women naturally lubricate. But men don’t. As a result, foreplay can quickly turn from pleasure to pain. So take this into consideration when you’re handling his nether region.
Consider using a water-based lubricant during foreplay. (We say water- based because lubricants like Vaseline can damage condoms.) And if you don’t have any lube, use an ample amount of saliva to prevent him from feeling discomfort. He’ll thank you later.
3. You didn’t take care of your, um, nether region.
While this can be an awkward subject to approach, it’s an important part of considerate sex. Hygiene is one of the most important parts of intimacy. So don’t overlook this important aspect of satisfaction in the bedroom.
If he “grooms,” chances are he’ll want you to too. Just be very careful in the shower. Know that “oopsies” can lead to cuts and painful razor burn. Find a grooming tool, like a razor specifically designed for the bikini area, to take care of down-there trims.
Take caution when using popular scented feminine washes. These products can affect your natural PH level, which can lead to infections.
4. You’re not communicating enough.
In truth, communication is one of the most important parts of good love making. While your guy might be experienced, he’s not a mind reader. That’s why you have to talk to him about what you like -- and vice versa.
That said, no one wants a chatter box. In other words, don’t interrupt the moment to tell him about that great conversation you had with your best friend this afternoon. Let it flow naturally -- and be fully present with the experience.
5. You’re trying to talk dirty in all the wrong ways.
Movies like 50 Shades of Grey have made women want to talk dirty in the bedroom. However, there can be a difference between the porn he may watch and the way he wants you to talk to him in the heat of the moment.
First and foremost, ask him what he likes in the way of dirty talk. Does he want you to be straightforward or subtle? Do four-letter words turn him on or off? And does he even like dirty talk at all?
Second, try to be natural and spontaneous about word play. In other words, don’t bust out in random dialogue for the sake of just being heard. Tell him what you’re feeling, but be honest about it. Try not to sound like a script.
6. You’re too repetitive.
Repetitiveness is one of the most common saboteurs in the bedroom. That’s because women get comfortable with what they know and forget to explore options outside of what they’ve become accustomed to.
So don’t make the missionary position your go-to every time. Spice it up. If you’re lacking creativity, here are some ideas.
· When the kids aren’t around, catch him off-guard at the kitchen table. Wear a dress with no panties and climb on top. He won’t know what hit him.
· Learn how to do a strip tease. Light a candle and download your favorite sexy song. Then give him the lap dance of his life.
· Try the “reverse cowgirl.” This is when you’re on top -- but facing backwards. He’ll go crazy for the rear view.
· Play “hands off.” Pick a night that’s just about him. Then go down on him without letting him touch you.
· Make love in a place other than the bedroom. Do it in the living room, or spice it up in the shower by inviting him to join.
· Experiment with blindfolds. Sometimes a surprise is just what it takes to rekindle your flame. If you don’t feel comfortable purchasing one, use a tie as a substitute. And consider adding scented oils to slather on a little sensual spice.
· Try role play. Maybe you’ve dreamed of your man being the handyman who drops by when you least expect it. Or perhaps he’s always fantasized about you dressed as a secretary with glasses and a file. Just talk about this first so that you’re both on the same page.
7. You’re selfish.
It can be easy to forget about him in the heat of the moment. Don’t make this common bedroom mistake. After all, he deserves some pleasure, too -- other than the obvious.
If he goes down on you, make sure to reciprocate. If you’re unsure as to how to proceed, ask him what he likes. He’ll gladly show you just how to make him moan. And if you’re engaging in foreplay, make sure you please him as well. Guys like a little pre-party, too.
8. You’re faking it.
While your guy definitely wants you to have the “Big O,” he doesn’t want you to pretend. However, women often fake orgasms because they want to please their men.
One of the main reasons for faking it is that many women can’t have orgasms from sex, so they don’t really know what to do in the heat of the moment.
That’s where a little self-help comes into play. If you can’t have an orgasm from sex, don’t be shy about helping yourself along by stimulating your clitoris. He’ll appreciate the honesty -- and he’ll think it’s hot. Find a position that’s comfortable and let loose on yourself.
9. You always let him take the lead.
Sure, some guys are natural leaders in the bedroom. But they don’t want to lead all the time. That’s why some of the hottest moments come in the form of you directing the show.
If you’re in the habit of letting him initiate sex, make it a point to do the opposite. Put the moves on him when he least expects it. It will drive him wild.
And don’t be shy about what you are trying to accomplish. Change in the bedroom is good. Who knows? You both just might learn something new.
10. You don’t own your sexuality.
When it comes down to the moment at hand, he wants you to feel confident. After all, he’s with you because he thinks you’re special.
The first step in this process is opening up to him about your insecurities. Not only does this build trust, but it also boosts your self-esteem. And it holds with it the power to take your intimate relationship to the next level. So tell him just what bars you from owning your sexuality.
Then remember what he says and take it as a cue for confidence. In other words, use this as a growth opportunity. You’ll be feeling more confident faster than you could imagine.
11. You’re wearing granny panties and a 1950's nightgown.
If you’ve been with your partner for a long time, it can be easy to get comfortable. And in many cases, that can mean getting too comfortable.
Take note of what you’re usually wearing when it comes to sex. If you’ve gotten into the habit of wearing granny panties and ugly nightgowns on scheduled days meant just for you and him, you’re definitely crossing a line between comfort and sexiness.
This is where planning is key. Don’t be afraid to shop for that special find sure to make his day. All it takes is a simple trip to a lingerie store or order online for privacy. Then surprise him with a little va-va-voom when the kids are away.
12. You don’t make time for sex.
As we age, life gets busy. As a result, sex gives way to the daily grind. However, this is one of the most common reasons that couples lose that spark.
If you have to, schedule sex. While this isn’t the ideal situation, it’s an important part of life in a relationship. After all, the difference between friends and lovers is that intimate connection. So make it a point not to lose that special bond.