The abuser may also try to keep you from taking care of yourself. For example, he or she might try to prevent you from sleeping or eating. And he or she may try to stop you from calling the police or getting medical treatment if you’re hurt. 

Abuse can also be found in the way of controlling the environment. In this case, the abuser might leave you somewhere. Or they might drive recklessly when you’re in a car together. They may even make you drink or take drugs, thus altering your frame of mind.

If you feel that you have been abused, help is available. In the case of emotional abuse, see a therapist, and do it alone. This allows you to tell your side of the story without interference to make an informed decision as to what’s best for you.

If you’ve been physically abused, don’t put off getting help. Seek help immediately, and do not let fear stop you. Experts are trained in how to deal with this type of situation and in how to get you to a safe place where you’ll be protected. You can call The National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). That said, do not send emails. Experts stress that this is not a safe way to obtain help.