The uncertainty of a life-threatening illness brings about thoughts and emotions that can feel unbearable. You may try and try to run from reality, only to find that you can’t. That in itself is exhausting, and then the cycle repeats.
This is why education, acceptance and support are key to emotional survival. In short, you can’t -- and shouldn’t -- face your illness alone. You need guidance and understanding from others who know what you’re going through.
Emotions: What to Expect
According to the American Psychological Association (APA), a new diagnosis is filled with a range of emotions. First, you may feel distressed. And when you try to internalize what has happened, emotions may darken. For example, the APA says that diabetics may feel guilt or shame, which is normal.
Grief and denial also will occur, blurring the line between reality and fictional thinking. And, of course, you’ll feel angry and sad – perhaps simultaneously. This roller coaster can be tumultuous as emotions fluctuate. However, you will probably feel calmer as time passes.
One of the most important goals should be to learn to cope, but knowing how to do this can be confusing. The APA says that facing the diagnosis head on is your best bet. In other words, try to cut through denial and get to the root of the problem. This will help maintain overall emotional health.