Lucas says that mindfulness meditation may thicken the anterior insula inside the brain, which could help to heighten sensations. Plus, she says that a thicker insula can help to improve how you express emotion. It can even help you to tune into what your partner is feeling, which may better your lovemaking abilities in general.
Talk About Sex – and Do it!
And talk to your spouse or significant other about what’s going on in the sack. Be forthcoming about what turns you on and what doesn’t. Be spontaneous by trying new things. One fun option is to play a sex game that you purchase online to give you some direction. Or spice things up by blindfolding one another to add a little suspense to bedroom activities.
Try to plan time for sex so that a romp in the hay becomes a priority. We get so busy that we don’t find time for sex in general.
In this respect, “use it or lose it” is applicable. According to The North American Menopause Society, “regular vaginal sexual activity is important for vaginal health after menopause because it stimulates blood flow, helps keep your vaginal muscles toned, and maintains your vagina’s length and stretchiness.”
If you’re struggling with vaginal dryness, add a water-based lubricant, but have sex to preserve your vagina in general.
You also can try foods to improve sex drive. According to The Dr. Oz Show, beef and pumpkin seeds make for a great option because they’re filled with zinc. In fact, Dr. Oz describes zinc as “the ultimate sex mineral.”
Try strawberries dipped in chocolate. Dark chocolate (which Dr. Oz says should be made of 70 percent cocoa) is said to elevate dopamine. And dopamine and good sex are a team.
This is because dopamine is a “pleasure chemical.” Dopamine levels increase when we first fall in love. According to Psychology Today, this causes that famous inability to concentrate, a pounding heart and sleepless nights. However, these levels decrease as time goes on. That said, increasing dopamine levels can trigger the “heat of second honeymoons.”
Another option to try is asparagus. Oz says that asparagus is filled with folate. Folic acid is linked to histamine, which is released when we have “The Big O.”
So go ahead, try these natural methods to see if your sex drive increases. Keep a journal so that you remember what does and doesn’t work. And talk to your doctor about other options besides medication. He or she may suggest hormone therapy treatments and provide new suggestions for rekindling that spark.